The biggest reason why many people choose Mediation is privacy. Any discussions are protected by a confidentiality agreement, and you avoid airing the details of your conflict in the public forum of the courts. Mediation is a safe place to talk about whatever you need to talk about, without worrying about judgment or embarrassment.
Mediation is also typically faster and less expensive than the traditional, adversarial approach. An agreement can be reached in weeks, rather than months. Mediation fees are typically lower than an attorney's, and fewer hours are involved in the process. Those parties who choose to also consult an attorney are better prepared, with most issues already resolved, and so need much less time with their attorney.
Parenting Plan Mediation is fairly common throughout New York State, particularly at Community Dispute Resolution Centers. At some point in the discussion, though, finances inevitably come up. Can we afford the decisions that we're making? Who will pay what for each decision made? What will the courts have to say about all these decisions? These questions are pointing toward Child Support. Luckily, Mediators can be trained to answer all of these questions, and more!
This training is truly comprehensive, beginning with Child Support's origins, history, and development. The text of the Child Support Standards Act is examined, along with what the CSSA requires for a valid Agreement. Plenty of time is spent on the calculations required by the courts, with particular attention paid to a wide variety of family situations. That includes the reasons provided in law to Deviate from the Presumptively Correct Amount, and what those options mean for modern families. After all, since every family is unique, shouldn't their Child Support Agreement reflect that?
Neutrals spend a huge amount of time dealing with emotion. Our parties' conflicts are driven by the energy of high emotions, and those powerful forces are constantly present in the room. There as many ways to manage those emotions as there are practitioners. One thing that can make a real difference to the quality of our practice, though, is increasing our parties' emotional granularity.
This training offers the opportunity to learn why and how emotional granularity can benefit our parties, explain how the underlying biological processes work, expand our emotional vocabulary overall, and ultimately find out how to "tune in" our parties' feelings.